Supporting Your Child as They Start Nursery or Reception 

Beginning Nursery or Reception is a big milestone—for children and for parents. It’s completely natural to feel a mixture of excitement, pride, and a few nerves. At Ashleigh, we understand how important these early steps are, and we are here to support you every step of the way.

Your child’s first experiences in an educational setting shape how they feel about learning, friendships, routines, and independence. That’s why we take great care to create a gentle, nurturing start. From the moment your child walks through our doors, they are welcomed with warmth, kindness, and curiosity about who they are and what they love.

Relationships are at the heart of everything we do. Our dedicated Ashlings team take time to get to know each child as an individual—what makes them smile, what comforts them, and what sparks their curiosity. We want them to feel safe, valued, and confident to explore.

We also build close partnerships with parents/carers. You know your child best, and your insights help us provide the very best care and learning experiences.

To ensure transitions from home to Ashleigh feel as smooth and positive as possible. We offer:

• Guided tours of the school.
• Stay‑and‑play sessions to help children get used to their new environment.
• Open communication between home and school through conversations, updates, and regular check‑ins.

Whether this is your first child or your last to start school, we know this moment matters. We are here to support your family, to celebrate the little milestones, and to help your child grow with confidence.

If you have any worries—no matter how small—please talk to us. We’re here to help.

School Readiness

“School readiness” means different things to different people but during this milestone moment, it is natural to wonder “is my child ready for school?”

We want to reassure you, that for us, school readiness is not about knowing letter sounds, counting to ten, or holding a pencil perfectly. It’s about supporting your child to feel:

• Secure and happy in a new environment.
• Comfortable separating from parents and carers.
• Curious to explore and willing to try new things.
• Able to play alongside others and begin early friendships.
• Confident in communicating needs, even if still developing language.
• Developing independence in small everyday routines.

Developing Independence 

 In Ashlings, we believe that developing independence is a vital part of every child’s early learning journey. Nursery and Reception are the perfect stages for children to begin taking small but meaningful steps towards doing things for themselves. These everyday skills help children grow in confidence, resilience, and self‑esteem—qualities that support them not only in school, but throughout life.

Our environment is carefully set up to allow children to “have a go” in a safe and encouraging way. Staff model language, demonstrate skills, and celebrate every achievement.

You can encourage and build independence by giving your child time to  practise the following skills, ahead of starting Nursery or Reception :

• Carrying their own belongings.
• Putting on and removing a coat and jumper.
• Doing up and undoing zips.
• Putting on and removing shoes.
• Using a knife and fork.
• Opening and closing their drinks bottle.
• Recognising their own name.

Toileting 

Many parents worry about toileting when their child starts nursery, but please be assured—we meet children exactly where they are.

If your child is already toilet trained…

Wonderful! We will continue your routines, gently reminding and supporting your child throughout the day.

That’s completely okay. Many children begin nursery while still developing toileting skills. We will work with you to understand your child’s routines, signals, and needs.

We offer:

• Patient, positive support.
• Regular toileting reminders.
• Help with wiping, clothing, and handwashing.
• Comforting, non‑stressful guidance.
• A consistent approach, agreed with you.

In December 2025, the Department for Education (DfE) and the Department of Health and Social Care (DHSC) released a new national guide aimed to help parents potty train their children. It included the message that it is better for children’s bladder and bowel health to stop using nappies between 18 and 30 months. The new guide covers when to start potty training, and how to get all children enthusiastic about using the potty and toilet, with lots of practical advice and ideas.

The full guidance can be found here: https://startingreception.co.uk/potty-training/

 If your child is still requiring support as they begin reception, we will work alongside your family to ensure that you have the appropriate support networks in place.

One Size Does Not Fit All!

Every child is unique, and there is no “right” timetable for learning new skills. Our team is here to work in partnership with you, offering encouragement, practical tips, and a warm, nurturing environment where your child can grow with confidence.

If you ever have questions—about toileting, settling in, development, or anything else—please come and speak to us. We’re here to help make this transition happy, calm, and positive for your whole family.